Giving or receiving an apology can be the hardest thing to
do and encounter when one is really hurt. Telling someone you are sorry for
something you did wrong or for something misunderstood means that the person
must lay aside their pride and admit to it, this is not an easy thing to do.
Other side, receiving an apology can be bittersweet as well because hearing and
accepting apologetic words causes the recipient to remember a bad time in their
life and they too must swallow their pride in choosing to accept it.
Apology is not just a social nicety. It is an important
ritual a way of showing respect and empathy. It is also a way of acknowledging
an act that if otherwise left unnoticed. Apology has the ability to disarm
others of their anger and to prevent further misunderstandings. While an
apology canaot undo harmful past actions if done sincerely and effectively, it
can undo the negative effects of those actions.
Benefits of Apology:
- A person who has been harmed feels emotional healing when he is acknowledged by the wrongdoer.
- When we receive an apology, we no longer perceive the wrongdoer as a personal threat.
- Apology helps us to move past our anger and prevents us from being stuck in the past.
- Apology opens the door to forgiveness by allowing us to have empathy for the wrongdoer.
Apology is crucial to our mental and even physical health.
An apology actually affects the bodily functions of the person receiving it,
blood pressure decreases, heart rate slows and breathing becomes steadier.
The importance of an apology is immense. Saying sorry but
not meaning it or not intending to improve our actions will cause a lack of
trust to develop. Saying I am sorry and admitting that we did something wrong
is the first step to self-improvement.
The apology language identifies are:
- Expressing regret
- Accepting responsibility
- Making restitution
- Genuinely expressing the desire to change your behavior
- Requesting forgiveness
Apologies and forgiveness are pivotal aspects of intimate relationships. Saying sorry is not about admitting who is
right or who is wrong but about acknowledging when wrong is preceived and
empathizing with feeling hurt. An apology cannot undo what has been done, but
it can help ease the pain and tension. It gives hope for rebuilding and puts
value on the relationship rather than the individual’s pride.
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